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Post by fingerpaints on Jul 20, 2009 0:08:31 GMT -7
lol! I got to agree with you kim, im ushually the one making a moron of myself though but It doesnt bother me not drinking either, its good fun watching others make a fool out of themself XD
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Post by Knotty Kitty on Jul 20, 2009 0:20:32 GMT -7
We've got several gay bars round here, but I'm not gay, or into bars. I'm more of a hookah lounge kind of person. Bars are so noisy and crowded, and there's always at least one person who's way too drunk, stumbling around the place and being annoying as hell. Just out of curiousity, are there any boys here? I know there's male collectors on the Arena, but it would be awesome to have some guy fakie collectors! Too bad Klinton doesn't like fakies. He's the blue-eyed hawtness of the pony world. For serious.
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Post by Zainin on Jul 20, 2009 0:23:01 GMT -7
Just out of curiousity, are there any boys here? I know there's male collectors on the Arena, but it would be awesome to have some guy fakie collectors! Too bad Klinton doesn't like fakies. He's the blue-eyed hawtness of the pony world. For serious. I'm a genderqueer, does that count? If it doesn't, then, no, I don't think we do have any boys. =P
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Post by fingerpaints on Jul 20, 2009 0:24:49 GMT -7
lol kk - my tabby kitty jack likes fakies, you could consider him a fakie collector, and he has teh bowie eyes (one blue & one yellow) is mah handsome boy <3 I dont think we have any male fakie collectors as yet though
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Post by Knotty Kitty on Jul 20, 2009 0:23:37 GMT -7
I'm a genderqueer, does that count? If it doesn't, then, no, I don't think we do have any boys. =P To be honest, I'm not entirely sure what that means. *blush*
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Post by Zainin on Jul 20, 2009 0:27:41 GMT -7
I'm a genderqueer, does that count? If it doesn't, then, no, I don't think we do have any boys. =P To be honest, I'm not entirely sure what that means. *blush* It's an alternative gender identity. It's when you don't identify as male OR female, but either some combination, a lack of gender, or something else entirely, such as an unnamed third gender. I personally identify as a hermaphrodite. I'm more or less perfect the way I am in body, except that I lack a certain male appendage. I prefer male titles but female pronouns- IE, I like being called "her" and "she" but hate "woman". I find being called "he" uncomfortable, but I prefer to be addressed as "sir" or "Mister" and prefer to be known as a man.
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Post by Knotty Kitty on Jul 20, 2009 0:30:22 GMT -7
Interesting. I didn't know there was a third option.
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Post by fingerpaints on Jul 20, 2009 0:31:42 GMT -7
I wish I knew what I was like you do Zainin, I have no clue what I am, im not genderqueer, but have no idea on my sexuality still. Its taken me years just to admit to myself im not straight, but I aint sure from there on in. As long as your comfortable with yourself thats all that matters
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Post by Kanthaka on Jul 20, 2009 6:20:16 GMT -7
What a conversation! I'd hand out alcohol and various drugs if I had them, but pretend. Here, have cake. I stole it from my mom, but it's good anyway.
Gender identity and orientation are all very interesting--I think it's fascinating that there are so many combos. You would think that a boy is a boy and a girl is a girl, but sex and sexuality develop in several different stages. Even before a baby is born, it undergoes several gender and gender-orientation processes... and not all girls end up as girls at all stages, and the same is true with boys.
Erm...
As for myself, I am asexual. Why not share?
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Post by Zainin on Jul 20, 2009 8:54:38 GMT -7
I'm what would be called "androsexual". It literally means I'm attracted to men. One asks why I can't say I'm straight (though I do use that term when talking to people I don't want to explain everything to) and it's fairly obvious, to me at least: I can't be straight if I'm not opposite gender of what I'm attracted to!
I'm either a 0 or a 1 on the Kinsey scale at any given time, pretending for a moment I have a female identity since the Kinsey scale only accounts for "men" and "women". The chart reads as:
0 Exclusively heterosexual 1 Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual 2 Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual 3 Equally heterosexual and homosexual; bisexual. 4 Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual 5 Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual 6 Exclusively homosexual
I don't really like women, but I've had "girl crushes" before that are very fleeting and will last only a day or two at most, and I have no desire to do anything sexual with a woman unlike with men. So generally I'd say I'm a 0 but every once in a while I can be a 1.
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Post by fingerpaints on Jul 20, 2009 16:31:48 GMT -7
That scale is pretty interesting, id probably say im around a 5 on there, sounds like me I havent ever been with a chick before, but have no feelings at all for any men (except in a friends / family sort of relationship)
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Post by Knotty Kitty on Jul 20, 2009 18:04:35 GMT -7
I agree with Veda. This conversation is interesting! I wasn't exposed to alternative gender roles until recently, like within the past few years. I had one or two gay friends in high school, and my two best female friends in the past decade or so were bi, so I was familiar with gay, straight, and bi. But it wasn't until I started spending a lot of time online that I met some of the "grey areas". I had an in-depth conversation probably a year or two ago with a transgender (born a woman, turned man through surgery and hormones) once, and he was very helpful with explaining the how and why, all while saving me the dangerous internet search for "transgender" (which I'm sure would have resulted in all kinds of porn, surgery photos, and other things that my brain does not need.) So Veda, where does asexual fall? That means you're not attracted to either gender, right? Does it mean you don't have any sexual feelings at all? What about....erm....solo sex? (Sorry for the personal questions, I'm just curious. You don't have to answer in regards to yourself, just asexuals in general. Well, you don't have to answer in general either, but you know what I mean. ) I think that when I finally get my butt back to school, I'll take some psychology classes. I don't really want a degree in it or anything, but this type of identity stuff (and the workings of the human mind in general) absolutely fascinates me. Oh, and sorry for totally hijacking your thread, Amy. XP
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Post by Kanthaka on Jul 20, 2009 20:09:42 GMT -7
Asexual doesn't fall anywhere. Some people will tell you it's not an orientation, and one of my psychology textbooks insisted that it's basically the result of extreme narcissism, childhood sexual abuse, or some mental condition. There's a wide range of definitions and it's a foggy term at best. Generally, though, asexuals aren't attracted to either gender (at least not in a sexual way; that's not to say that there's an inability to tell if someone is attractive, or a lack of a desire to build relationships), or at least don't feel a need to act out on any attractions. It's complicated. Some experience arousal, some don't... that's a very broad generalization.
I'm not sure if you'll learn anything useful about identity by taking psychology courses. I finished my psych minor last year, and most of the interesting identity stuff was found on my own time.
Amy loves the hijacking! Right, m'dear? *prods*
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Post by Zainin on Jul 20, 2009 20:35:27 GMT -7
Well, one of my friends is an asexual lesbian, as she identifies. She's attracted to women, and only interested in forming romantic relationships with women, but has a 100% lack of interest in sex or physical contact. Does that help?
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Post by fingerpaints on Jul 20, 2009 22:18:56 GMT -7
XD hijacking is fine by me - its definately totally different thread to how it started off, but thats fine by me, im sure were all finding this interesting or learning new things, which is great ;D Im actually looking into psycology as a possible career for a bit later in life, its very interesting subject and although you would see some terrible things, you could help out alot of people too. I think sexuality is important to most people though, even if you are like myself and dont really have a clue what exactly you want (or even if you want) its all good, you got to be happy in yourself though, if the people around you arent happy with it, they arent worth having around
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